THIS WEEK: Mindfulness will be our goal, not in another practice per say, but rather an attempt to become more mindful about some of the most common things in our vocabulary. I want to get us in touch with some of our thoughts and feelings on matters that perhaps we aren’t spending much time on thinking too deeply about. So, we will be more interactive this week!
For starters, I want to hear what the definition of CRISIS is for each one of you. I will share mine later this week.
Next, I will list some myths about emotions and what I would like to hear are some ways that we can challenge those myths.
1) For every situation I have, there is right way and a wrong way to feel about it.
2) I should be able to control my emotions.
3) Frustration equals anger, just miniaturized.
4) Avoiding difficult emotions is a survival safety feature.
5) All emotions require some form of action.
6) It is destructive to have negative feelings.
7) I didn’t control my negative thinking well enough if I have a painful emotion.
8.) I am out of control if I am emotional.
9) Some emotions are useless.
10) I should find a way to stop having emotions that get in the way of my relationship with other people.
(although these myths are not copied, some are taken from those of which Marsha Linehan uses in her Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder, and the idea may be repeated)
Let us know what you think! I will check back in a few days and expound on our comments! Can’t wait to hear from you all
MJ
March 11, 2010 at 7:33 pm
definition of CRISIS: any stressful situation that can lead to danger, anger, or unhealthful ways of handling the problem
1) For every situation I have, there is right way and a wrong way to feel about it.
-For the situation I have, there is no right or wrong way to feel about it.
2) I should be able to control my emotions.
-I can control how I react to my emotions.
3) Frustration equals anger, just miniaturized.
-Frustration can be handled before becoming anger using dbt skills.
4) Avoiding difficult emotions is a survival safety feature.
-Avoiding difficult emotions is almost impossible.
5) All emotions require some form of action.
-Not all emotions require a form of action.
6) It is destructive to have negative feelings.
-Negative feelings are part of life.
7) I didn’t control my negative thinking well enough if I have a painful emotion.
-If I don’t control my negative thinking, I may have a painful emotion.
8.) I am out of control if I am emotional.
-I am not out of control if I am emotional. I can use my skills to regain my wise mind.
9) Some emotions are useless.
-Each emotion serves a purpose.
10) I should find a way to stop having emotions that get in the way of my relationship with other people.
-All emotions are ok, it is how I react to them that can hurt myself and my relationships.
March 15, 2010 at 4:09 pm
Stacey,
Thank you for your contribution to this weeks information. Clearly you have DBT skills, good for you! I especially appreciated the common thread of your comments about understanding the that all emotions have a purpose.
MJ
March 27, 2010 at 5:30 pm
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March 29, 2010 at 1:30 pm
Thank you for your comment, I really welcome any thoughts of our readers, peer support only works unless we as peers offer up each of our success and/or failures! So thank-you.
MJ
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